Dating a successful lawyer


04-Aug-2020 13:00

In her book she stoked the flames of panic among successful women: “Nowadays, the rule of thumb seems to be that the more successful the woman, the less likely it is she will find a husband or bear a child.” She argued that high-achieving women who were still single at age 30 had a less than 10 percent chance of ever marrying.

Three years later, Maureen Dowd blamed her own single life on her career success.

Writes Dowd, “I was always so proud of achieving more — succeeding in a high-powered career that would have been closed to my great-aunts. Jill, Kim, Angela, and Star are members of a women’s book club, and these bad news headlines were Topic #1 at a recent meeting.

How odd, then, to find out now that being a maid would have enhanced my chances with men.” These two books have had a profound effect on the way young, career-oriented women perceive their relationships. “I got that Maureen Dowd piece emailed to me by tons of people, including my mom, who wrote a header saying something like, ‘According to this, you’re never getting married.’ Someone in the office emailed me as well.

In her 2005 book Dowd told readers that she came from a family of Irish maids and housekeepers.

Now in her 50s, she has achieved more than her great-aunts and grandmothers would have dreamed: She was one of the first women to have a regular opinion column in America’s newspaper of record, she’s written several best-selling books, and she has won the highest award in journalism. Should I postpone talking about my stuff, should I put it off until he likes me for my personality? It feels fake, like a game, but I’m not sure what these studies are telling me to do.” Among single women in their 20s and 30s, the topics of marriage, career, and life balance are at center stage.

“It was just depressing.” Kim chimed in: “I’m on the cusp of turning 30 and people are always complaining that smart women don’t get married.Any hint of bad news about the successful or talented has always made headlines, but media pessimism about the happiness and life balance of millions of young, career-oriented women has struck a chord nationwide.